Long distance relationships can be very tricky. It is important to make sure that you do not lose each others trust. Our minds tend to play tricks on us when it comes to relationships like these. Jealousy and anger can quickly set in and this is what I have learned;
Long distance relationships will never work If there is a lack of constant communication and respect of each others needs. The boundaries that separate the two of you can be overcome with constant communication of your love for one another. Wether it be a phone call, a letter, text, email or picture. Knowing, seeing, hearing and reading any of these feelings is a form of a hug and a kiss. To prove and show your love and trust every single day is a constant reassurance to one another that love knows no boundaries. The minute you feel that you don’t have to because you think that they should know regardless of all of these little things, is the minute your feelings have shifted. Never make your partner feel that they “should have known”, because that’s just you knowing that your making an excuse to not be there completely, fully. Never feel that you “have to” or “want to” do or say something just to prevent each other from being upset. Instead, feel that you “need to”. Know the difference between wants and needs as “wants” is a form of selfishness and not selflessness.
Get to know each others friends. Make their friends, your best friends. After all, they are the ones who sees your partner more than you do. To build that form of trust and likeness with them is healthy to the relationship. Friends will always be there to help work things out.
For me, the best thing about being in a distant relationship is every time I get the chance to see my partner I start to feel how I did when I met him for the very first time. That is how you should always feel. Every day should be and feel like your first day.
Sincerely, Don Lee James